It is never easy
comforting a relative, friend or associate who has lost a
loved one. People are often uncertain as to the best way to
show their sympathy. Adding to this uncertainty are changing
trends in how Malaysians commemorate the death of a loved
one. In a multi-racial country, which comprise of Muslims,
Buddhists, Hindus and Christians being the main faith, the
ceremony differs in rituals, and length of time. Services
may take a few days for Buddhists, Taoists and Hindus while
the rituals for Muslims and Christian are relatively shorter
and simpler. Viewing periods may range from a day to 3 days,
and sometimes may not occur at all.
Flowers have traditionally been sent to the funeral home for
display during the viewing and service. However, this does
not mean that there should be no show of sympathy if no
service is held. Grief therapists agree that the rituals
surrounding death are an aid in the grieving process. In
instances where there is no service, experts recommend
sending condolences to the bereaved person or family's home.
Guide to Common Terms for Sympathy Flowers
Many people are unfamiliar with the terms used by florists
for sympathy arrangements. The followings are the more
common terms :
To view sympathy
arrangements in greater detail, please
The Weeks Following the Funeral:
Friend in Grief
The funeral service is over. Friends and family have paid
their respects and gone home. There are no more hectic plans
to distract the grieving family, and the shock has worn off.
They are now left feeling lost and alone.
Experts say that although
the initial outpouring of sympathy is a great comfort to a
family that has lost a loved one, many people experiencing
such a loss appreciate being thought of in the weeks and
months after the funeral. Consider sending flowers or a
plant with a personal note to the home of the bereaved. Your
message of, "I'm here if you need me," will show the
bereaved that no matter how much time passes, he or she can
count on your support.